Sect in layman's language is an illegal group,outlawed that is formed by similar heads of the school thoughts,mostly does illegal dealings. One of the most feared and cold sects to ever exist in Kenya is the Mungiki,they extort citizens and have been mentioned in chilling murders. A university is a place for intellectuals with sober minds atleast thats what's expected. However its emerging that there is a sect consisting of number of students running a cult harassing students.
Nairobi Exposed has exclusively done a background check up to unearth how this group operates and the grip they hold. This was a risk taking ordeal as most students were shying away from commenting fearing victimization. It has taken few Weeks to dig deep into this. First,the sect calls itself PDF(Prefabs Defence Force) and is fully operational. They hide under the pretence of safeguarding the interest of the students whilst exists SONU which is the official students body. Though not clear but as of information gathered  some of the big heads mentioned to be championing this organization are simply identified as OCS, Cili,Stitches who happens to be students at the institution.
The group boasts of being the control machines of the school and they decide what to and not to happen. They operate by extortion of funds. We learn and reveal that this group collects a certain amount of money from the shops and kiosks established within the school's premises,if you fail to pay you get looted and booted. Matter of fact for you to establish a business in the compound you must sought their consent and approval,which you also do by parting with a few bank notes.
Apart from the shops any other small businesses going about in the hostels are all within their radar.
Available for hire to cause mayhem.
If you have realised during the common strikes and custom stone throwing at pedestrians along the waiyaki highway which is the university's adjacent,its always a small group of students protesting and causing mayhem. Figures puts the stats of entire UoN at above 60k students yet the ever protesting students never reaches 1k if at its biggest. Nairobi Exposed is reliably informed that the group through its leaders are approached in the event of the need to cause a mayhem,here money exchanges hands,alcohol is bought and mobilization conducted. Within no time the charged crowd hits the roads. 99.9% of those who protests are always drunk connect the dots,that's why they end up punishing wrong parties vandalizing their cars.

Approval of candidature and controlling the campaigns.

SONU elections are ever charged infact its close to the national elections,its always done in the presidential style with car convoys,"untying the youths" and all. The chairmanship is highly profiled as its a spring intothe national political arena,most of those who have been chairmen have ended up in big political offices,example,James Orengo,Kabando WA Kabando amongst others. The SONU elections is always full of glamour  but unknown to many behind scenes alot goes on. Before any vying candidate puts up his own campaign poster,the PDF have to approve and give you a go ahead,by approving you must pay them to have your posters erected up,if you defy and goes ahead to put thi up,they will pull them down,it has happened severally.
Events extortion
Any event that happens in the school they must be incorporated and given their share,according to stats gathered they demand a 30% cut off the total budget of the event. Normally,a faculty will organise s function and get sponsors to finance the project,so PDF will demand 30% of what you were given in order to let it run,they always have the figures right. If you defy and still opt to go ahead,they will disrupt the function. Recently KTN fell a victim,the school of journalism had invited the str8up team to air a live show from the graduation square but the faculty didn't sort out the PDF,they stormed in the venue when the crew were setting up and getting ready to go on air. Everything came to an hault,PDF demanded to be paid sh.30,000 if they wanted the show to go on,failure to which no show will be held. They even threatened to vandalize the equipments should KTN defy their orders and fail to pay. Asked as to why they needed the money they simply put it as giving extra security,this is despite the fact that the school hasit's own set of security officers. Not pleased,the KTN crew called off the show and went away.
Other than the mentioned what other illegal activities are they up to,does the administration know about it and what they aredoing about it?

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Events in Kenya have had a sort of reawakening. People are thronging to events in droves and event organizers have responded by putting together even more events. For some time now there hasn’t been a comprehensive events website in Kenya. Nairobi Now has tried but they post events haphazardly which means one can’t view events by date. That’s where Gigwapi comes in. Gigwapi is a web listing for events that makes it easy for users to connect with the type of events they like. The events are grouped in dates and type which makes it easy for users to discover events.
Kenya Hapa talked to Gigwapi’s co-founder Kinyanjui Njonde to learn more about the startup.
How did the idea for your startup come about?
The idea stage was in early 2012 while still in campus. The initial idea was to list all the offers around various clubs and shops around the campus. In Early September, we got incubated at the Nailab with the same idea but after market research we had a pivot and started listing all events, and fun things to do in the country to cater for a growing need from the emerging middle class in the country.
What has been your biggest challenge so far?
Setting up a team. We started as 4 founders however 2 of them had to drop out due to personal and commitment issues, which meant we had to restructure and work extra hard. Getting the right and competent talent has been the biggest issue so far.
What has your startup achieved so far?
Currently we have launched the minimum viable product to the market and we have had a positive reception in the market both from our end users and event organizers. We are getting over 15,000 page views a month 5 months after launch with no marketing budget.
In four months of being in existence we had been invited and mentioned as a top 40 startup in Africa by Global innovation through science and technology (GIST). We also made it to the final round of the Pivot East 2013 completion. We were also invited as an exhibitor in the IST Delegate conference as Technology innovators.
What has contributed to your success to this point?
When we began we set our true north and we had been true and committed to the cause. We also have received a lot of support from our mentor at the Nailab and families members who didn’t really understand what we were doing in the beginning.
What made you choose entrepreneurship over employment?
I know its cliché to say this, but I have always wanted to do my own thing. Before this I was doing freelance IT support. All these combined with the 1000 CVs and application letters I had to send with no replies forced me into entrepreneurship
What are your thoughts on startups in Kenya?
Kenya being an emerging market makes it the right place and time to start or launch a startup that addresses or solves a problem using technology. The right strategy will get you noticed quickly and probably propagate your growth fast enough. At this stage is when you need to have the right team set up, a mentor to guiding you especially when dealing with investors and have business structures set up. At least for us, having all these thing have helped us avoid and deal with a lot of unknowns that have come our way.
Which key individuals have been of great help to your startup?
All the team members have been instrumental to our success. My co-founder Erick Waithaka, Trevor Mutune our product development, Aura Soothe our newest addition in the marketing department, Edwin Mbugua, helping on development on voluntary basis. Also, the priceless mentorship we have received from the Sam Gichuru and the Nailab team.
Going forward, what does your startup need?
What we need is strategic partnerships with event organizers, artists and basically influential people in the entertainment industry.


courtesy of kenya hapa

Are you busy looking for success everywhere except the one place you can truly find it? Does life seem like a futile chasing after the rainbow?
One possible reason for this could be that you are not looking for success in the right place. It is not in the environment around us or the circumstances we face that we find success, but in ourselves.
The simple fact is that if you are successful within, in your mind, you will be successful on the outside as well. It may seem too simple thing, but it is something we often forget when the pressures of life surround and overwhelm us. When it comes to making everyday choices it usually does not occur to us.
Here are several ways as how you can invest in yourself
knowledge is a huge asset
Knowledge is a powerful asset. It makes the difference between living in abundance and living in lack. The only difference between the managing director in a company and the messenger in the same company is their knowledge. The MD knows something the messenger doesn’t. That is why he earns a hundred times more than she does.
It is what you know that will bring you success. It’s what you don’t know that will cause you to fail. Why then, do some get it so wrong? For example many people look for promotions without acquiring the necessary skills and knowledge they need to be promoted.
Many business people are struggling because they just won’t take the time to learn about accounting, marketing and all that goes with doing business. That’s like trying to drive a car without first putting in the fuel.
 ways to invest in you
There are many ways to invest in yourself. One way is to make it a habit to buy books regularly. Not just any books, of-course, but books that will challenge you and from which you can learn something. Biographies of other successful people, “how-to” books, self-improvement books and professional books such as accounting or public speaking books are examples.
Investing your time and money in learning things such as goal-setting, how to manage your time, how to be more confident and less doubtful, how to be a better speaker, how to adjust your thinking, create new habits and squash bad ones, how to take care of your health, how to focus and so can greatly improve your results in life.
 the value of self-education
The point is that you determine how and what you learn as well as how fast you learn. Self-education is important beyond the classroom. In the real world self-education matters a whole lot more than formal education. There are plenty of people with a formal education that are still struggling.
Knowledge, then, is a powerful asset, and one which you should always be seeking to improve and build upon in the pursuit of your dreams. The Proverbs declare that “through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.”
conclusion
Become addicted to continuous improvement and increase in your knowledge consistently and constantly. With time, you will inevitably become the person that you desire to be. Then you will no longer have to chase after success. Success will follow you. Your mind will become magnetized to attract success.
You are all you can be. Go on and be it.


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7 Little Habits That Can Change Your Life, and How to Form Them

 

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.” - Aristotle

If you could just pick one or two (or seven) habits to create in the next few months — habits that will have the most impact on your life — what would they be?

I often get asked this question, because people are overwhelmed when it comes to starting positive life changes.
They ask me: what one or two habits should they start with?
It’s not an easy question. There are so many changes I’ve gone through, from quitting smoking to simplifying my life to reducing debt to many more. And they’ve all seemed life-changing, and they’ve all seemed important.
But if I were to start again, and had to pick one or two, it would be the one or two listed below. The list that follows is in order of what I think I’d do the first 6-7 months of changing my life … but realize that every person is different. No one should follow my choices exactly — you’ve got to figure out what works for you.

“Men’s natures are alike; it is their habits that separate them.” - Confucius

The Seven Little Habits That Can Change Your Life

1. Develop positive thinking. I put this first because I think it’s the keystone habit that will help you form the other important habits. Sure, positive thinking by itself won’t lead to success, but it certainly goes a long way to motivate you to do the other things required.
I learned this when I quit smoking — when I allowed myself to think negative thoughts, I would end up failing. But when I learned how to squash negative thoughts and think positive ones instead, I succeeded. This discovery lead to me practicing this over and over, until I was able to form just about any habit I needed. It’s been invaluable to me, and I think it could be to most people.
Focus on this habit first, and you’ll have a much easier time with any of the others. Start by becoming more aware of your negative self-talk — do a little tally sheet throughout the day, marking a tally each time you notice a negative thought. Soon you’ll recognize them, and you can squash them.


2. Exercise. People who’ve been hearing me harp on about exercise might roll their eyes. Sure, exercise is healthy and all that, but how exactly is it life changing? I’m glad you asked:

• It makes you feel better about yourself, and more confident. That leads to better success with other positive changes.
• It reinforces the positive thinking habit — you need to think positive in order to sustain exercise.
• It relieves stress and gives you time to think — this leads to better mental well-being in your life overall.
• It helps with creativity. Don’t ask me to prove it, except to say that my best ideas and brainstorming sessions come from when I exercise.

3. Single-tasking. The opposite of multitasking — you’ve heard me harp on about this one as well. Why is it life-changing? A couple powerful reasons:

• You’ll be more effective with your tasks and get more done. It’s hard to achieve important things if you’re constantly switching tasks and distracted by other “urgent” things.
• You’ll be less stressed overall and (in my experience) happier throughout your day.

4. Focus on one goal. Just as focusing on one task at a time is more effective, and focusing on one habit at a time is more effect, so is focusing on one goal at a time. While it might seem very difficult, focusing on one goal at a time is the most powerful way of achieving your goals. When you try to take on many goals at once, you’re spreading thin your focus and energy — the two critical components for achieving a goal.

What if you have 5 goals you want to achieve? Pick one to focus on first. Break it into a mini-goal you can accomplish this month, if it’s a longer-term goal. Pick an action you can do today. Keep doing this until the goal is accomplished — do an action every day, finish the mini-goal, pick the next mini-goal to work on. Then, when your One Goal is completed, focus on the next goal.
Some goals are ongoing ones — like blogging every day, or exercising every day. In those cases, turn them into habits — focus exclusively on turning the goal into a habit, until the habit is ingrained. Then focus on the next goal.

 
5. Eliminate the non-essential. First, identify the essential — the things in your life that are most important to you, that you love the most. Then eliminate everything else. This simplifies things and leaves you with the space to focus on the essential. This process works with anything — with your life in general, with work projects and tasks, with emails and other communication.
This will change your life because it will help you to simplify, to focus on what’s important, and to build the life you want.


6. Kindness. Yes, kindness is a habit. And it can be cultivated. Focus on it every day for a month and you’ll see profound changes in your life. You’ll feel better about yourself as a person. You’ll see people react to you differently and treat you better, over the long run. It’s karma.

How do you develop the kindness habit? First, make it a goal to do something kind for someone each day. At the beginning of the day, figure out what that kind act will be and then do it during the day. Second, each time you interact with someone, try to be kind, be friendly, be compassionate. Third, try to go beyond small kindnesses to larger acts of compassion, volunteering to help those in need and taking the initiative to relieve suffering.


7. Daily routine. It’s so simple, but creating a daily routine for yourself can make a big difference in your life. The best routines, I’ve found, come at the start and end of the day — both your workday and your day in general. That means, develop a routine for when you awake, for when you first start working, for when you finish your workday, and for the end of your evening.
How will that change your life? It will help you get a great start to your day, and finish your day by preparing for the next day. It’ll help you firmly root the productive habits you want to firm in your everyday life. It’ll help you focus on what’s important, not just what comes up. It’ll help you make sure you get done all the things you really want to make sure gets done everyday. And that can mean a lot.

“We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.” - John Dryden

You can now follow me on Twitter — the great experiment continues!

Where the bad blood between Raila and Uhuru Started..Sins of the Fathers..

The Independent Electoral and Boundaries and Commission (IEBC) chairman Issack Hassan, has been admitted at Karen Hospital suffering from a heart ailment.

  Relations between the Soviet Union and the West had become so tense 30 years ago that British officials drew up a speech for the Queen to deliver to the nation in the event of a nuclear war, newly released archives showed on Thursday.
In the speech, the monarch was to urge Britons to remain united and resolute in the face of the "madness of war."
Written by government officials, the hypothetical speech was part of a secret exercise designed to prepare Britain for the threat of a possible World War Three, but was never broadcast.
It starts by referring to the queen's traditional Christmas address to the nation.
"The horrors of war could not have seemed more remote as my family and I shared our Christmas joy with the growing family of the Commonwealth," she was to have said.
"Now, this madness of war is once more spreading through the world and our brave country must again prepare itself to survive against great odds."
The queen's speech was imagined to be broadcast in the spring of 1983 against the backdrop of worsening U.S.-Soviet relations, during a year in which then U.S. President Ronald Reagan described the Soviet Union as an "evil empire".
The queen was to have continued: "I have never forgotten the sorrow and the pride I felt as my sister and I huddled around the nursery wireless set listening to my father's (King George VI's) inspiring words on that fateful day in 1939 (at the start of the World War Two).
"Not for a single moment did I imagine that this solemn and awful duty would one day fall to me."
Citing the close bond of family life as the greatest defence against the unknown, the speech also mentioned the queen's second son Prince Andrew, who was serving in the Royal Navy at the time.
"If families remain united and resolute, giving shelter to those living alone and unprotected, our country's will to survive cannot be broken," she was to have said.
The papers were released by the National Archives as part of a 30-year rule that sees official records from the Prime Minister's office and Cabinet Office released to the public.
They also revealed how Margaret Thatcher, who was the prime minister at the time, dismissed the idea of hiring the then 21-year old William Hague - now Foreign Secretary - as an advisor to the Treasury.
"No," she wrote, underlining the word three times before adding "This is a gimmick and would be deeply resented by many who have financial economic experience."



courtesy of LONDON (Reuters) -

Once upon a time,it was a social norm to settle down and start a family in the early 20s;typically with the support system of new-mom friends and the extended family. Yet due to a series of medical and social advancements (the Pill to IVF treatments), we've extended the age at which women can choose to start families - with the age for first-time moms climbing up around the world. The road to motherhood has more routes than ever before - some less traveled than others.

Even though we can start having babies at a later age (and even though many young women are very happy to do so), there's still the biological pull to put those maternal instincts to work. A lot of my childless 20-something friends are starting to wonder: What's the best age to have a baby?
And so it's an interesting time, right now. The generational gap between parents is wider than it's ever been - with 21-year-olds and 41-year-olds living the new-mom experience side by side. Millennials who grew up listening to Britney Spears and designing AOL profiles are on play dates with Gen-Xers who clearly remember a pre-Internet existence and still rock out to Nirvana. And while those cultural nuggets might seem trivial in the face of new life, new responsibilities, and the monumental insight into the human experience - it still matters. It matters in how we connect, how we relate, and how we form friendships with other moms.
Younger parents will tell tales of isolation and embarrassment, without many peers to lean on for labor advice or poop questions. They might have to fend off snide comments about their age, like "babies having babies." They might feel like they're constantly having to prove themselves to a society that thinks they're too immature to handle parenthood.
Older parents will confess to feeling judged about their choice, as well - that they're selfish for having a child at an older age, if just for the genetic and health risks. They might feel pitied for their perceived lack of energy, and occasionally get confused for grandparents.
And then, of course, there are the positives in both camps. I had my son at 22 years old (which certainly was not the norm here in New York), and I'm thankful for the way it shifted my priorities and put my life into focus at an age where I was craving self-growth and introspection. It was easy on my body, I was already used to pulling all-nighters in college, and I didn't have a long-established adult life to be accustomed to.
My friend Lisa, on the other hand, is in her early 40s and our kids are the same age. She's thankful to have had decades of nomadic freedom, traveling from city to city, forming friends all over the globe. She says that her pre-child experiences make her a more well-rounded, insightful mother, and she's happy to have waited to find the right partner.
Studies are conducted to find the ideal age to have a child, but the results are consistently contradictory. So maybe we simply need to is talk to one another - to tell our stories and compare our notes - to realize that there's no ideal time across the board.

courtesy of yahoo.com

In the last two years, electronic dance music (EDM) has become a global phenomenon. Sure, EDM has existed in some form for over 25 years, but it's current level of popularity is truly unprecedented.

In the last two years, thanks largely social media, EDM DJs have become the main attractions at music festivals like Coachella and South by Southwest. They are selling millions of records and millions of concert tickets. For the first time in history, some of the top DJs are even selling out 20,000 seat arenas like Madison Square Garden and the Staples Center. Not surprisingly, with great success also comes great reward. A popular DJ can easily earn $100,000 for a single night's work. The upper echelon of DJs can earn between $500,000 and $1 million. Not only do they get paid to do live shows, but DJs also make fortunes from merchandise sales, licensing, music sales and endorsements. In other words, DJs have become the new rockstar. And just like their Rock'n'roll counterparts, DJs now have private jets, mansions, groupies and celebrity girlfriends…
For the second year in a row, Tiesto is the richest DJ in the world. The Dutch born DJ topped our list last year with a net worth of $65 million and today we estimate that Tiesto is sitting on a $75 million bank account. Tiesto earns an average of $250,000 per night and brought home more than $20 million last year alone (before the brutal 52% Netherlands tax rate). Tiesto flies around the world in a customized private Gulfstream jet. Another DJ who has been very busy this year is the 25 year old Skrillex. In the last 12 months, Skrillex doubled his net worth from $8 million to $16 million. He also earned an estimated $15 million in the last 12 months alone, on top of winning three Grammys.
The duo of Guy-Manuel de Homem-Christo and Thomas Bangalter, better known as Daft Punk, saw their net worths explode thanks to continued licensing deals, royalties, music sales and merchandise. Their highly anticipated fourth album "Random Access Memories" was released in May 2013 and quickly became the fastest selling album of 2013. Their single "Get Lucky" has been #1 on the UK music charts for five weeks and under a month became the most streamed song in the history of Spotify.
Other DJs who brought home serious cash last year include Swedish House Mafia ($15 million), David Guetta ($14 million), Steve Aoki ($13 million), Deadmau5 ($12 million), DJ Pauly D ($11 million), Kaskade ($10 million), Afrojack ($9 million) and the 23 year old Swedish DJ Avicii who earned a whopping $8 million and toured with Madonna.
Almost immediately after this article went live, we started hearing complaints that DJ Pauly D was included. As painful as this is to admit, Pauly D is one of the most sought after DJs performing today. He is booked at over 130 gigs every year and frequently pulls down a six figure salary for a single set. Add to that a clothing line, a reality spin-off show and an official line of tanning lotions and you can start to understand how Paul Delvecchio brings home $11 million per year. Half of that income is from DJing.
Below is a complete list of the richest electronic dance music DJs in the world as of May 26, 2013. To calculate the net worths, we took into account all music sales, merchandise, touring revenue, licensing, endorsements, real estate, royalties and more. We obtained that information from all publicly available sources, promoters, managers, club owners and, in some cases, the artists themselves. Finally, we took out taxes and various other fees to cover management, agents and legal expenses.
The Richest Electronic DJs In The World:

• #1: Tiesto – $75 million
• #2: Guy-Manuel de Homem-Christo (Daft Punk) – $60 million
• #3: Thomas Bangalter  (Daft Punk) - $60 million
• #4: Paul Oakenfold – $58 million
• #5: Paul van Dyk – $52 million
• #6: John Digweed – $45 million
• #7: Armin Van Buuren – $40 million
• #8: Judge Jules – $42 million
• #9: Sasha – $40 million
• #10: Pete Tong – $32 million
• #11: Moby – $30 million
• #12: David Guetta – $30 million
• #13: Steve Aoki – $28 million
• #14: Fatboy Slim – $23 million
• #15: The Chemical Brothers – $20 million
• #16: Ferry Corsten – $19 million
• #17: Deadmau5 – $18 million
• #18: Carl Cox – $16 million
• #19: Skrillex – $16 million
• #20: Benny Benassi – $15 million
• #21: DJ Pauly D – $15 million (Sad but true)
• #22: Sven Vath – $14 million
• #23: Jeffrey Sutorius (Dash Berlin) – $13.5 million
• #24: Calvin Harris – $13 million
• #25: Avicii – $12 million
• #26: Afrojack – $11 million
• #27: Kaskade – $10 million
• #28: Sebastian Ingrosso (Swedish House Mafia) – $10 million
• #29: Steve Angello (Swedish House Mafia) – $10 million
• #30: Axwell (Swedish House Mafia) – $10 million
• #31: Hardwell – $9.5 million
• #32: Darude – $9 million
• #33: ATB aka Andre Tanneberger – $8.5 million
• #34: Richie Hawtin – $8.5 million
• #35: Jono Grant (Above & Beyond) – $8 million
• #36: Paavo Siljamäki (Above & Beyond) – $8 million
• #37: Tony McGuinness (Above & Beyond) – $8 million
• #38: Gareth Emery – $7 million
• #39: Diplo – $6.5 million
• #40: Erick Morillo – $6 million
• #41: Alesso – $6 million
• #42: Martin Solveig – $5 million
• #43: Eric Prydz – $4.5 million
• #44: Markus Schulz – $4 million
• #45: Mark knight – $4 million
• #46: Adam Beyer – $3 million
• #47: Danny Tenaglia – $3 million
• #48: Bad Boy Bill – $2.5 million
• #49: Little Louie Vega – $2 million
• #50: Morgan Page – $2 million

DJ Tiesto – Richest DJ

Do you find yourself falling hard for someone and then ending up feeling rejected and not good enough when it ends? This is the problem that Sabrina is having:

"Why do I fall so hard for men? How can I get over this without pain and the feelings of dreadful rejections and feeling less than?"
Sabrina, imagine that you have an actual little girl whom you pay little attention to. Along comes a man and you hand your little girl over to this man for him to love her. While he is loving her, she might feel a little okay (although she will feel rejected by you since you are abandoning her). Since she doesn't get love and attention from you, she attaches hard to this man. But after a while he becomes tired of taking care of her and leaves.

Now she is doubly devastated. You originally rejected her and now he has rejected her. How can she possibly feel good about herself? Of course she feels less than.

The same thing happens on the inner level. The part of you who falls hard is an abandoned inner child - your feeling self - whom you are constantly rejecting. Even your question indicates rejection - your want to 'get over this without pain.'
It is not possible to get over this without pain until you decide that you want responsibility for learning to love yourself. That little girl in you needs love, and if you are not going to give it to her, then she will fall hard for someone who will give it to her - at least temporarily. How can you not be in pain and feel rejected and worthless when you continue to abandon yourself by making a man responsible for your feelings of worth and safety?

Until you decide to learn to love yourself rather than continue to reject yourself, you will continue to fall hard and continue to suffer the pain of rejection and unworthiness.

So, of course, what I recommend is what I always recommend - learn and practice Inner Bonding! The six-step roadmap of Inner Bonding is the process for learning to love and value yourself and create your own inner safety.

If You Loved Yourself...

If you loved yourself, then you not want to abandon yourself to a man. You would be taking responsibility for your own feelings of worth and safety, so you wouldn't need him to do it. You would find yourself wanting to share love with a man rather than trying to get love. When you are filled with love and want to share it, you do not '"fall hard" the way you do now. "Falling hard" is what the ego/wounded self does when she thinks she has found someone to love her.

When you learn to love yourself, you will attract a different kind of man - a man who also wants to share love with you. Right now, because you are abandoning yourself, you attract men who also abandon themselves. They will 'love' you with an agenda attached, which is that you give them the love they are not giving to themselves. They are just as needy as you, and two needy people create a codependent relationship that often eventually becomes dissatisfying. When you don't fulfill his expectations to make him feel loved, safe and worthy, he may drop you and move on to find someone else to meet his needs. That's when you feel hurt, abandoned and rejected.
I suggest you learn to put your whole focus on defining your own worth, and learn to bring love from Spirit to your little girl. When she feels very loved by you, you will stop falling hard and getting hurt.

Sect in layman's language is an illegal group,outlawed that is formed by similar heads of the school thoughts,mostly does illegal dealings. One of the most feared and cold sects to ever exist in Kenya is the Mungiki,they extort citizens and have been mentioned in chilling murders. A university is a place for intellectuals with sober minds atleast thats what's expected. However its emerging that there is a sect consisting of number of students running a cult harassing students.
Nairobi Exposed has exclusively done a background check up to unearth how this group operates and the grip they hold. This was a risk taking ordeal as most students were shying away from commenting fearing victimization. It has taken few Weeks to dig deep into this. First,the sect calls itself PDF(Prefabs Defence Force) and is fully operational. They hide under the pretence of safeguarding the interest of the students whilst exists SONU which is the official students body. Though not clear but as of information gathered  some of the big heads mentioned to be championing this organization are simply identified as OCS, Cili,Stitches who happens to be students at the institution.
The group boasts of being the control machines of the school and they decide what to and not to happen. They operate by extortion of funds. We learn and reveal that this group collects a certain amount of money from the shops and kiosks established within the school's premises,if you fail to pay you get looted and booted. Matter of fact for you to establish a business in the compound you must sought their consent and approval,which you also do by parting with a few bank notes.
Apart from the shops any other small businesses going about in the hostels are all within their radar.
Available for hire to cause mayhem.
If you have realised during the common strikes and custom stone throwing at pedestrians along the waiyaki highway which is the university's adjacent,its always a small group of students protesting and causing mayhem. Figures puts the stats of entire UoN at above 60k students yet the ever protesting students never reaches 1k if at its biggest. Nairobi Exposed is reliably informed that the group through its leaders are approached in the event of the need to cause a mayhem,here money exchanges hands,alcohol is bought and mobilization conducted. Within no time the charged crowd hits the roads. 99.9% of those who protests are always drunk connect the dots,that's why they end up punishing wrong parties vandalizing their cars.

Approval of candidature and controlling the campaigns.

SONU elections are ever charged infact its close to the national elections,its always done in the presidential style with car convoys,"untying the youths" and all. The chairmanship is highly profiled as its a spring intothe national political arena,most of those who have been chairmen have ended up in big political offices,example,James Orengo,Kabando WA Kabando amongst others. The SONU elections is always full of glamour  but unknown to many behind scenes alot goes on. Before any vying candidate puts up his own campaign poster,the PDF have to approve and give you a go ahead,by approving you must pay them to have your posters erected up,if you defy and goes ahead to put thi up,they will pull them down,it has happened severally.
Events extortion
Any event that happens in the school they must be incorporated and given their share,according to stats gathered they demand a 30% cut off the total budget of the event. Normally,a faculty will organise s function and get sponsors to finance the project,so PDF will demand 30% of what you were given in order to let it run,they always have the figures right. If you defy and still opt to go ahead,they will disrupt the function. Recently KTN fell a victim,the school of journalism had invited the str8up team to air a live show from the graduation square but the faculty didn't sort out the PDF,they stormed in the venue when the crew were setting up and getting ready to go on air. Everything came to an hault,PDF demanded to be paid sh.30,000 if they wanted the show to go on,failure to which no show will be held. They even threatened to vandalize the equipments should KTN defy their orders and fail to pay. Asked as to why they needed the money they simply put it as giving extra security,this is despite the fact that the school hasit's own set of security officers. Not pleased,the KTN crew called off the show and went away.
Other than the mentioned what other illegal activities are they up to,does the administration know about it and what they aredoing about it?

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Events in Kenya have had a sort of reawakening. People are thronging to events in droves and event organizers have responded by putting together even more events. For some time now there hasn’t been a comprehensive events website in Kenya. Nairobi Now has tried but they post events haphazardly which means one can’t view events by date. That’s where Gigwapi comes in. Gigwapi is a web listing for events that makes it easy for users to connect with the type of events they like. The events are grouped in dates and type which makes it easy for users to discover events.
Kenya Hapa talked to Gigwapi’s co-founder Kinyanjui Njonde to learn more about the startup.
How did the idea for your startup come about?
The idea stage was in early 2012 while still in campus. The initial idea was to list all the offers around various clubs and shops around the campus. In Early September, we got incubated at the Nailab with the same idea but after market research we had a pivot and started listing all events, and fun things to do in the country to cater for a growing need from the emerging middle class in the country.
What has been your biggest challenge so far?
Setting up a team. We started as 4 founders however 2 of them had to drop out due to personal and commitment issues, which meant we had to restructure and work extra hard. Getting the right and competent talent has been the biggest issue so far.
What has your startup achieved so far?
Currently we have launched the minimum viable product to the market and we have had a positive reception in the market both from our end users and event organizers. We are getting over 15,000 page views a month 5 months after launch with no marketing budget.
In four months of being in existence we had been invited and mentioned as a top 40 startup in Africa by Global innovation through science and technology (GIST). We also made it to the final round of the Pivot East 2013 completion. We were also invited as an exhibitor in the IST Delegate conference as Technology innovators.
What has contributed to your success to this point?
When we began we set our true north and we had been true and committed to the cause. We also have received a lot of support from our mentor at the Nailab and families members who didn’t really understand what we were doing in the beginning.
What made you choose entrepreneurship over employment?
I know its cliché to say this, but I have always wanted to do my own thing. Before this I was doing freelance IT support. All these combined with the 1000 CVs and application letters I had to send with no replies forced me into entrepreneurship
What are your thoughts on startups in Kenya?
Kenya being an emerging market makes it the right place and time to start or launch a startup that addresses or solves a problem using technology. The right strategy will get you noticed quickly and probably propagate your growth fast enough. At this stage is when you need to have the right team set up, a mentor to guiding you especially when dealing with investors and have business structures set up. At least for us, having all these thing have helped us avoid and deal with a lot of unknowns that have come our way.
Which key individuals have been of great help to your startup?
All the team members have been instrumental to our success. My co-founder Erick Waithaka, Trevor Mutune our product development, Aura Soothe our newest addition in the marketing department, Edwin Mbugua, helping on development on voluntary basis. Also, the priceless mentorship we have received from the Sam Gichuru and the Nailab team.
Going forward, what does your startup need?
What we need is strategic partnerships with event organizers, artists and basically influential people in the entertainment industry.


courtesy of kenya hapa

Are you busy looking for success everywhere except the one place you can truly find it? Does life seem like a futile chasing after the rainbow?
One possible reason for this could be that you are not looking for success in the right place. It is not in the environment around us or the circumstances we face that we find success, but in ourselves.
The simple fact is that if you are successful within, in your mind, you will be successful on the outside as well. It may seem too simple thing, but it is something we often forget when the pressures of life surround and overwhelm us. When it comes to making everyday choices it usually does not occur to us.
Here are several ways as how you can invest in yourself
knowledge is a huge asset
Knowledge is a powerful asset. It makes the difference between living in abundance and living in lack. The only difference between the managing director in a company and the messenger in the same company is their knowledge. The MD knows something the messenger doesn’t. That is why he earns a hundred times more than she does.
It is what you know that will bring you success. It’s what you don’t know that will cause you to fail. Why then, do some get it so wrong? For example many people look for promotions without acquiring the necessary skills and knowledge they need to be promoted.
Many business people are struggling because they just won’t take the time to learn about accounting, marketing and all that goes with doing business. That’s like trying to drive a car without first putting in the fuel.
 ways to invest in you
There are many ways to invest in yourself. One way is to make it a habit to buy books regularly. Not just any books, of-course, but books that will challenge you and from which you can learn something. Biographies of other successful people, “how-to” books, self-improvement books and professional books such as accounting or public speaking books are examples.
Investing your time and money in learning things such as goal-setting, how to manage your time, how to be more confident and less doubtful, how to be a better speaker, how to adjust your thinking, create new habits and squash bad ones, how to take care of your health, how to focus and so can greatly improve your results in life.
 the value of self-education
The point is that you determine how and what you learn as well as how fast you learn. Self-education is important beyond the classroom. In the real world self-education matters a whole lot more than formal education. There are plenty of people with a formal education that are still struggling.
Knowledge, then, is a powerful asset, and one which you should always be seeking to improve and build upon in the pursuit of your dreams. The Proverbs declare that “through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.”
conclusion
Become addicted to continuous improvement and increase in your knowledge consistently and constantly. With time, you will inevitably become the person that you desire to be. Then you will no longer have to chase after success. Success will follow you. Your mind will become magnetized to attract success.
You are all you can be. Go on and be it.


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7 Little Habits That Can Change Your Life, and How to Form Them

 

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.” - Aristotle

If you could just pick one or two (or seven) habits to create in the next few months — habits that will have the most impact on your life — what would they be?

I often get asked this question, because people are overwhelmed when it comes to starting positive life changes.
They ask me: what one or two habits should they start with?
It’s not an easy question. There are so many changes I’ve gone through, from quitting smoking to simplifying my life to reducing debt to many more. And they’ve all seemed life-changing, and they’ve all seemed important.
But if I were to start again, and had to pick one or two, it would be the one or two listed below. The list that follows is in order of what I think I’d do the first 6-7 months of changing my life … but realize that every person is different. No one should follow my choices exactly — you’ve got to figure out what works for you.

“Men’s natures are alike; it is their habits that separate them.” - Confucius

The Seven Little Habits That Can Change Your Life

1. Develop positive thinking. I put this first because I think it’s the keystone habit that will help you form the other important habits. Sure, positive thinking by itself won’t lead to success, but it certainly goes a long way to motivate you to do the other things required.
I learned this when I quit smoking — when I allowed myself to think negative thoughts, I would end up failing. But when I learned how to squash negative thoughts and think positive ones instead, I succeeded. This discovery lead to me practicing this over and over, until I was able to form just about any habit I needed. It’s been invaluable to me, and I think it could be to most people.
Focus on this habit first, and you’ll have a much easier time with any of the others. Start by becoming more aware of your negative self-talk — do a little tally sheet throughout the day, marking a tally each time you notice a negative thought. Soon you’ll recognize them, and you can squash them.


2. Exercise. People who’ve been hearing me harp on about exercise might roll their eyes. Sure, exercise is healthy and all that, but how exactly is it life changing? I’m glad you asked:

• It makes you feel better about yourself, and more confident. That leads to better success with other positive changes.
• It reinforces the positive thinking habit — you need to think positive in order to sustain exercise.
• It relieves stress and gives you time to think — this leads to better mental well-being in your life overall.
• It helps with creativity. Don’t ask me to prove it, except to say that my best ideas and brainstorming sessions come from when I exercise.

3. Single-tasking. The opposite of multitasking — you’ve heard me harp on about this one as well. Why is it life-changing? A couple powerful reasons:

• You’ll be more effective with your tasks and get more done. It’s hard to achieve important things if you’re constantly switching tasks and distracted by other “urgent” things.
• You’ll be less stressed overall and (in my experience) happier throughout your day.

4. Focus on one goal. Just as focusing on one task at a time is more effective, and focusing on one habit at a time is more effect, so is focusing on one goal at a time. While it might seem very difficult, focusing on one goal at a time is the most powerful way of achieving your goals. When you try to take on many goals at once, you’re spreading thin your focus and energy — the two critical components for achieving a goal.

What if you have 5 goals you want to achieve? Pick one to focus on first. Break it into a mini-goal you can accomplish this month, if it’s a longer-term goal. Pick an action you can do today. Keep doing this until the goal is accomplished — do an action every day, finish the mini-goal, pick the next mini-goal to work on. Then, when your One Goal is completed, focus on the next goal.
Some goals are ongoing ones — like blogging every day, or exercising every day. In those cases, turn them into habits — focus exclusively on turning the goal into a habit, until the habit is ingrained. Then focus on the next goal.

 
5. Eliminate the non-essential. First, identify the essential — the things in your life that are most important to you, that you love the most. Then eliminate everything else. This simplifies things and leaves you with the space to focus on the essential. This process works with anything — with your life in general, with work projects and tasks, with emails and other communication.
This will change your life because it will help you to simplify, to focus on what’s important, and to build the life you want.


6. Kindness. Yes, kindness is a habit. And it can be cultivated. Focus on it every day for a month and you’ll see profound changes in your life. You’ll feel better about yourself as a person. You’ll see people react to you differently and treat you better, over the long run. It’s karma.

How do you develop the kindness habit? First, make it a goal to do something kind for someone each day. At the beginning of the day, figure out what that kind act will be and then do it during the day. Second, each time you interact with someone, try to be kind, be friendly, be compassionate. Third, try to go beyond small kindnesses to larger acts of compassion, volunteering to help those in need and taking the initiative to relieve suffering.


7. Daily routine. It’s so simple, but creating a daily routine for yourself can make a big difference in your life. The best routines, I’ve found, come at the start and end of the day — both your workday and your day in general. That means, develop a routine for when you awake, for when you first start working, for when you finish your workday, and for the end of your evening.
How will that change your life? It will help you get a great start to your day, and finish your day by preparing for the next day. It’ll help you firmly root the productive habits you want to firm in your everyday life. It’ll help you focus on what’s important, not just what comes up. It’ll help you make sure you get done all the things you really want to make sure gets done everyday. And that can mean a lot.

“We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.” - John Dryden

You can now follow me on Twitter — the great experiment continues!

Where the bad blood between Raila and Uhuru Started..Sins of the Fathers..

The Independent Electoral and Boundaries and Commission (IEBC) chairman Issack Hassan, has been admitted at Karen Hospital suffering from a heart ailment.

  Relations between the Soviet Union and the West had become so tense 30 years ago that British officials drew up a speech for the Queen to deliver to the nation in the event of a nuclear war, newly released archives showed on Thursday.
In the speech, the monarch was to urge Britons to remain united and resolute in the face of the "madness of war."
Written by government officials, the hypothetical speech was part of a secret exercise designed to prepare Britain for the threat of a possible World War Three, but was never broadcast.
It starts by referring to the queen's traditional Christmas address to the nation.
"The horrors of war could not have seemed more remote as my family and I shared our Christmas joy with the growing family of the Commonwealth," she was to have said.
"Now, this madness of war is once more spreading through the world and our brave country must again prepare itself to survive against great odds."
The queen's speech was imagined to be broadcast in the spring of 1983 against the backdrop of worsening U.S.-Soviet relations, during a year in which then U.S. President Ronald Reagan described the Soviet Union as an "evil empire".
The queen was to have continued: "I have never forgotten the sorrow and the pride I felt as my sister and I huddled around the nursery wireless set listening to my father's (King George VI's) inspiring words on that fateful day in 1939 (at the start of the World War Two).
"Not for a single moment did I imagine that this solemn and awful duty would one day fall to me."
Citing the close bond of family life as the greatest defence against the unknown, the speech also mentioned the queen's second son Prince Andrew, who was serving in the Royal Navy at the time.
"If families remain united and resolute, giving shelter to those living alone and unprotected, our country's will to survive cannot be broken," she was to have said.
The papers were released by the National Archives as part of a 30-year rule that sees official records from the Prime Minister's office and Cabinet Office released to the public.
They also revealed how Margaret Thatcher, who was the prime minister at the time, dismissed the idea of hiring the then 21-year old William Hague - now Foreign Secretary - as an advisor to the Treasury.
"No," she wrote, underlining the word three times before adding "This is a gimmick and would be deeply resented by many who have financial economic experience."



courtesy of LONDON (Reuters) -

Once upon a time,it was a social norm to settle down and start a family in the early 20s;typically with the support system of new-mom friends and the extended family. Yet due to a series of medical and social advancements (the Pill to IVF treatments), we've extended the age at which women can choose to start families - with the age for first-time moms climbing up around the world. The road to motherhood has more routes than ever before - some less traveled than others.

Even though we can start having babies at a later age (and even though many young women are very happy to do so), there's still the biological pull to put those maternal instincts to work. A lot of my childless 20-something friends are starting to wonder: What's the best age to have a baby?
And so it's an interesting time, right now. The generational gap between parents is wider than it's ever been - with 21-year-olds and 41-year-olds living the new-mom experience side by side. Millennials who grew up listening to Britney Spears and designing AOL profiles are on play dates with Gen-Xers who clearly remember a pre-Internet existence and still rock out to Nirvana. And while those cultural nuggets might seem trivial in the face of new life, new responsibilities, and the monumental insight into the human experience - it still matters. It matters in how we connect, how we relate, and how we form friendships with other moms.
Younger parents will tell tales of isolation and embarrassment, without many peers to lean on for labor advice or poop questions. They might have to fend off snide comments about their age, like "babies having babies." They might feel like they're constantly having to prove themselves to a society that thinks they're too immature to handle parenthood.
Older parents will confess to feeling judged about their choice, as well - that they're selfish for having a child at an older age, if just for the genetic and health risks. They might feel pitied for their perceived lack of energy, and occasionally get confused for grandparents.
And then, of course, there are the positives in both camps. I had my son at 22 years old (which certainly was not the norm here in New York), and I'm thankful for the way it shifted my priorities and put my life into focus at an age where I was craving self-growth and introspection. It was easy on my body, I was already used to pulling all-nighters in college, and I didn't have a long-established adult life to be accustomed to.
My friend Lisa, on the other hand, is in her early 40s and our kids are the same age. She's thankful to have had decades of nomadic freedom, traveling from city to city, forming friends all over the globe. She says that her pre-child experiences make her a more well-rounded, insightful mother, and she's happy to have waited to find the right partner.
Studies are conducted to find the ideal age to have a child, but the results are consistently contradictory. So maybe we simply need to is talk to one another - to tell our stories and compare our notes - to realize that there's no ideal time across the board.

courtesy of yahoo.com

In the last two years, electronic dance music (EDM) has become a global phenomenon. Sure, EDM has existed in some form for over 25 years, but it's current level of popularity is truly unprecedented.

In the last two years, thanks largely social media, EDM DJs have become the main attractions at music festivals like Coachella and South by Southwest. They are selling millions of records and millions of concert tickets. For the first time in history, some of the top DJs are even selling out 20,000 seat arenas like Madison Square Garden and the Staples Center. Not surprisingly, with great success also comes great reward. A popular DJ can easily earn $100,000 for a single night's work. The upper echelon of DJs can earn between $500,000 and $1 million. Not only do they get paid to do live shows, but DJs also make fortunes from merchandise sales, licensing, music sales and endorsements. In other words, DJs have become the new rockstar. And just like their Rock'n'roll counterparts, DJs now have private jets, mansions, groupies and celebrity girlfriends…
For the second year in a row, Tiesto is the richest DJ in the world. The Dutch born DJ topped our list last year with a net worth of $65 million and today we estimate that Tiesto is sitting on a $75 million bank account. Tiesto earns an average of $250,000 per night and brought home more than $20 million last year alone (before the brutal 52% Netherlands tax rate). Tiesto flies around the world in a customized private Gulfstream jet. Another DJ who has been very busy this year is the 25 year old Skrillex. In the last 12 months, Skrillex doubled his net worth from $8 million to $16 million. He also earned an estimated $15 million in the last 12 months alone, on top of winning three Grammys.
The duo of Guy-Manuel de Homem-Christo and Thomas Bangalter, better known as Daft Punk, saw their net worths explode thanks to continued licensing deals, royalties, music sales and merchandise. Their highly anticipated fourth album "Random Access Memories" was released in May 2013 and quickly became the fastest selling album of 2013. Their single "Get Lucky" has been #1 on the UK music charts for five weeks and under a month became the most streamed song in the history of Spotify.
Other DJs who brought home serious cash last year include Swedish House Mafia ($15 million), David Guetta ($14 million), Steve Aoki ($13 million), Deadmau5 ($12 million), DJ Pauly D ($11 million), Kaskade ($10 million), Afrojack ($9 million) and the 23 year old Swedish DJ Avicii who earned a whopping $8 million and toured with Madonna.
Almost immediately after this article went live, we started hearing complaints that DJ Pauly D was included. As painful as this is to admit, Pauly D is one of the most sought after DJs performing today. He is booked at over 130 gigs every year and frequently pulls down a six figure salary for a single set. Add to that a clothing line, a reality spin-off show and an official line of tanning lotions and you can start to understand how Paul Delvecchio brings home $11 million per year. Half of that income is from DJing.
Below is a complete list of the richest electronic dance music DJs in the world as of May 26, 2013. To calculate the net worths, we took into account all music sales, merchandise, touring revenue, licensing, endorsements, real estate, royalties and more. We obtained that information from all publicly available sources, promoters, managers, club owners and, in some cases, the artists themselves. Finally, we took out taxes and various other fees to cover management, agents and legal expenses.
The Richest Electronic DJs In The World:

• #1: Tiesto – $75 million
• #2: Guy-Manuel de Homem-Christo (Daft Punk) – $60 million
• #3: Thomas Bangalter  (Daft Punk) - $60 million
• #4: Paul Oakenfold – $58 million
• #5: Paul van Dyk – $52 million
• #6: John Digweed – $45 million
• #7: Armin Van Buuren – $40 million
• #8: Judge Jules – $42 million
• #9: Sasha – $40 million
• #10: Pete Tong – $32 million
• #11: Moby – $30 million
• #12: David Guetta – $30 million
• #13: Steve Aoki – $28 million
• #14: Fatboy Slim – $23 million
• #15: The Chemical Brothers – $20 million
• #16: Ferry Corsten – $19 million
• #17: Deadmau5 – $18 million
• #18: Carl Cox – $16 million
• #19: Skrillex – $16 million
• #20: Benny Benassi – $15 million
• #21: DJ Pauly D – $15 million (Sad but true)
• #22: Sven Vath – $14 million
• #23: Jeffrey Sutorius (Dash Berlin) – $13.5 million
• #24: Calvin Harris – $13 million
• #25: Avicii – $12 million
• #26: Afrojack – $11 million
• #27: Kaskade – $10 million
• #28: Sebastian Ingrosso (Swedish House Mafia) – $10 million
• #29: Steve Angello (Swedish House Mafia) – $10 million
• #30: Axwell (Swedish House Mafia) – $10 million
• #31: Hardwell – $9.5 million
• #32: Darude – $9 million
• #33: ATB aka Andre Tanneberger – $8.5 million
• #34: Richie Hawtin – $8.5 million
• #35: Jono Grant (Above & Beyond) – $8 million
• #36: Paavo Siljamäki (Above & Beyond) – $8 million
• #37: Tony McGuinness (Above & Beyond) – $8 million
• #38: Gareth Emery – $7 million
• #39: Diplo – $6.5 million
• #40: Erick Morillo – $6 million
• #41: Alesso – $6 million
• #42: Martin Solveig – $5 million
• #43: Eric Prydz – $4.5 million
• #44: Markus Schulz – $4 million
• #45: Mark knight – $4 million
• #46: Adam Beyer – $3 million
• #47: Danny Tenaglia – $3 million
• #48: Bad Boy Bill – $2.5 million
• #49: Little Louie Vega – $2 million
• #50: Morgan Page – $2 million

DJ Tiesto – Richest DJ

Do you find yourself falling hard for someone and then ending up feeling rejected and not good enough when it ends? This is the problem that Sabrina is having:

"Why do I fall so hard for men? How can I get over this without pain and the feelings of dreadful rejections and feeling less than?"
Sabrina, imagine that you have an actual little girl whom you pay little attention to. Along comes a man and you hand your little girl over to this man for him to love her. While he is loving her, she might feel a little okay (although she will feel rejected by you since you are abandoning her). Since she doesn't get love and attention from you, she attaches hard to this man. But after a while he becomes tired of taking care of her and leaves.

Now she is doubly devastated. You originally rejected her and now he has rejected her. How can she possibly feel good about herself? Of course she feels less than.

The same thing happens on the inner level. The part of you who falls hard is an abandoned inner child - your feeling self - whom you are constantly rejecting. Even your question indicates rejection - your want to 'get over this without pain.'
It is not possible to get over this without pain until you decide that you want responsibility for learning to love yourself. That little girl in you needs love, and if you are not going to give it to her, then she will fall hard for someone who will give it to her - at least temporarily. How can you not be in pain and feel rejected and worthless when you continue to abandon yourself by making a man responsible for your feelings of worth and safety?

Until you decide to learn to love yourself rather than continue to reject yourself, you will continue to fall hard and continue to suffer the pain of rejection and unworthiness.

So, of course, what I recommend is what I always recommend - learn and practice Inner Bonding! The six-step roadmap of Inner Bonding is the process for learning to love and value yourself and create your own inner safety.

If You Loved Yourself...

If you loved yourself, then you not want to abandon yourself to a man. You would be taking responsibility for your own feelings of worth and safety, so you wouldn't need him to do it. You would find yourself wanting to share love with a man rather than trying to get love. When you are filled with love and want to share it, you do not '"fall hard" the way you do now. "Falling hard" is what the ego/wounded self does when she thinks she has found someone to love her.

When you learn to love yourself, you will attract a different kind of man - a man who also wants to share love with you. Right now, because you are abandoning yourself, you attract men who also abandon themselves. They will 'love' you with an agenda attached, which is that you give them the love they are not giving to themselves. They are just as needy as you, and two needy people create a codependent relationship that often eventually becomes dissatisfying. When you don't fulfill his expectations to make him feel loved, safe and worthy, he may drop you and move on to find someone else to meet his needs. That's when you feel hurt, abandoned and rejected.
I suggest you learn to put your whole focus on defining your own worth, and learn to bring love from Spirit to your little girl. When she feels very loved by you, you will stop falling hard and getting hurt.